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Z, i was devastated for a little while but i can honestly say i still miss him occasionally and sometimes i still get very angry about how he did it but i am moving on with my life and right now i am happy.I feel like i have met somebody who is more suited to me anyway and who has more common interests and want to see where it goes. I didn't see anybody for a little while then i tried to get back out there and it was sort of a disaster but as time went on things just improved.I did all the lets talk and even sent a letter which was the final thing cause i know he got it and either chose to read it or not but at least he knew what i thought about what he did and how i felt.That gave me some closure and then i decided mostly thru the help of this board that it didn't really matter why he broke up, it didn't change anything.Cowgirl, jez, and a couple others were really tough on me about that but i finally got it. 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First bf cheated on me and dumped me for another girl twice.When the topic of cheating came up with bf #2, i glossed over the story of the cheating ex bf and told him,"If things arent working between us, i would never hold it against u if you left me, but please dont cheat on me. ".Sure enough, he cheated on me and dumped me too, but he was extra angry and abrasive while doing it because that early request made him feel more guilty which he took out on me. After that, i decided not to brace myself against future hurt.Its a recipe for disaster. A self fulfilling prophecy is what i was thinking too.Had something similar happen with my second bf. First bf cheated on me and dumped me for another girl twice.When the topic of cheating came up with bf #2, i glossed over the story of the cheating ex bf and told him,"If things arent working between us, i would never hold it against u if you left me, but please dont cheat on me. 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